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Though Mary had a highly physically and emotionally abusive home environment, she had not previously sought out treatment or therapy nor did she relate her problem adult sexual and romantic history to early childhood abuse.
She told her therapist that she had always believed that “by marrying the right guy, I could just put the past behind me, when Jeff came along – I thought I was safe” Just after her first child was born, Mary began sexual/romantic affairs with both a neighbor and separately, a co-worker, believing then that her marriage had become boring and she needed these other experiences to feel “more alive.” In addition to the stated ongoing sexual and romantic liaisons over the past several years, Mary has been signing onto Craigslist in search of other lovers and casual sex whenever she or her husband are out of town for work.
Today there are a few precious resources for female sex and love addicts include the recent book, “Waiting to Heal” by Kelly Mc Daniel MFT, “Women, Sex and Addiction” by Charlotte Kasl.
SLAA, Sex and Love addicts Anonymous is a 12-step sex addiction recovery program that encourages female participation and offers many gender separate meetings.
The Ranch, a residential treatment center in Nunnelly, Tennessee offers private, gender separate residential treatment for female sex addicts.
Do you feel you need to hide these activities from others – friends, family, co-workers, counselors, etc.? Do you get “high” from sex and/or romance and then crash when the act or experience is over? Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people? Do you make promises to yourself or rules for yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow? Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don’t (didn’t) want to have sex with? Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits? Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate? Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g.
the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)? Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships? Do you feel like a lifeless puppet unless there is someone around with whom you can flirt?
The most important step a female sex and love addict can take toward recovery is to openly and honestly bond with healthy adult women, not for sex – but for recreation, friendship and mutual support.