Invalidating someone elses experience
Imagine you didn’t get enough sleep last night and you feel utterly exhausted today.
You complain to someone—your partner, parent, friend, or coworker—by saying, “I am so tired!
My question is if it's wrong to invalidate women's experiences, does that mean men are not allowed to disagree or offer their own opinion on gender issues?
My issue with that is that invalidating seems to have a very loose definition.
Yet, effectively acknowledging the emotions and experiences of others can at times be a challenge.
I've also seen the term gaslighting used for when a man disagrees and apparently it's equated to abuse.It's a collective ideology but as far as I can tell, it's one where one gender is mostly expected to listen and another is mostly encouraged to talk.Most advice I've seen given to male feminists is about listening which does suggest men can best learn by copying women's conclusions.” Consider how you might feel if any of the following reactions occurred: Many people are uncomfortable with feelings, especially negative ones.They don’t want to accept them, give them any power, or allow them to exist.
People sometimes incorrectly believe that ignoring feelings will help them to diminish and ultimately disappear. Ignoring, minimizing, or denying feelings either causes them to amplify or results in other negative feelings, namely those of being hurt, isolated, or rejected.