Divorce telling kids dating
No divorce, even under the best of circumstances is easy and I think a woman does herself a disservice by not giving herself time to heal, get her head together and make sure she is a whole person before trying to begin another relationship.I may be at the far end of the spectrum in my opinions, but I have known so many women that CANNOT be without a man. They go from one relationship to the next and they've done it in front of their kids. I think it sends a signal to children (who have already gone through the emotional loss of an intact family unit) that relationships just come and go and can't be trusted.The last thing the children need is several people popping in and out of their lives.I've seen children resent their parents and hate ALL potential partners.My own story is that I also divorced and have 2 boys ages 8 and 12. When we left my verbally abusive husband, my oldest son cried that he never wanted to see him again and wanted God to bring him a new daddy.
Im in the process of getting both kids into therapy over the whole divorce(we were married for 10 years). Id really like to keep seeing the man I was beginning a great relationship with ( hes willing to wait) but I just dont know how to integrate him into my life...Or do they always hate it, and do you just have to make them deal with it ? Dear L., My kids were 11 and 1 when I left my abusive husband.The only thing worse than being married to him was trying to get away.Right now we have a great situation where we all communicate well with each other and live well together. I have cared for kids in our child care whose parents divorced while in my care. My friend did not let her dates meet her children until they were in a serious relationship because she didn't want men coming in and out of her three children's lives. I've been divorced for 15 years and re-married my high school sweetheart just two years after my divorce.As long as the parents don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, the kids really think that their parents will get back together. I suggest reading books from the library about this topic which is very common. My daughter is now graduating from HS and tells me that she still has a secret wish that she had one family.